I got to sit and chat the other night with someone I am close to who is going through a very hard time. A real hard time too, not just a rough patch. She has spent more time in hospitals than she has at home and knows enough to be a doctor at this point.
As she recanted her awful past few months, she wrapped it up quite quickly and said “…but we all have our stories right?”
Not only did it catch me off guard then but it has stuck with me since our conversation – we all have our stories. Instead of dwelling on every agonizing day, she wanted to move past it. She wanted to get through, not only for our conversation but I believe in general. She wanted to move on and to hear other stories about my crazy little life and chat with the other people we were joined with at dinner.
I know I have my stories and I have some bad ones too. My whole life I carry them around but I try not to let them way me down. In my household, holidays and birthdays are a day we reflect on our stories and we are thankful for the way things seem to be turning out. Most days I set my sad stories on a shelf, way up high and I dust them off for said holidays and birthdays.
Dwelling on those sad stories can hold you back. You might miss an opportunity while you are dwelling on events gone by.
I recently came across this post from Indie Business that posted the 10 Things That Oprah Knows for sure. While I like most of them, number three was my favorite: Whatever someone did to you in the past has no power over the present. Only you give it power.
So what are you going to do with your stories? Let them hold you back or make you more driven? I think it is up to you.