Boring Life

“Wouldn’t life be boring if you were married to a man
who said all the right things all the time”

– My husband

Me and Snooki

Me and SnookiAs you may know, I recently ‘came out’ that I was pregnant. Since then, everyone has been so sweet and supportive.

Today though, I had to take this host body and drag it up on a stage to present at the Agents of Change Conference. Eek!

To address the ‘issue’ I began my session with a slide called ‘Me and Snooki’.

It went something like this:

  • She has really let herself go!
  • Yes, I am 34 1/2 weeks pregnant (37 days to go)!
  • I feel fine
  • It’s a boy
  • No, we don’t have a name yet
  • Please don’t touch me
  • If something happens:
    • Someone get some hot water and clean towels
    • Please tweet my husband, @tweettweetone

Me and Snooki go to SXSW

That slide really helped me feel more comfortable with my news but there is actually more to the me and Snooki story. I found out I was pregnant right before heading to SXSW this Spring. SXSW is like nerd Spring Break. There are amazing companies, amazing sessions, and lots of sponsored and launch parties. I am not a huge partier but figuring out how I was going to mix and mingle at all these events and not have a drink was making me very anxious.

Fresh off the news that my whole life was going to change – I was packing my bags to leave the 5 people in this word that knew my news… to go to nerd Spring Break. To ease my nerves, I downloaded a few ‘How to Have a Baby’ books on my Kindle and planned to read them on the plane and when I was all alone in my hotel room while everyone else was toasting champagne and drinking margaritas.

The first book I read was awful. It was just not my thing.

As I am on the plane to Austin, this book tells me all about my pregnancy. In the book, it tells me that there will be a celebrity that announces that they are pregnant at the same time as me, that I will be obsessed with their pregnancy and I will completely feel like I connected with them. That week, hitting news stands was the BIG Us Weekly issue announcing that Snooki was pregnant.

So my celebrity pregnancy match was Snooki?!?
That was my first pregnancy/hormonal cry.

So THAT is the full story about me and Snooki! Nothing against her, but I really never felt uber connected to her but she was my first pregnancy cry. So I guess we will always have that.

Lounging with LannaLee – Amanda Pants Style

Oooh I hate attention and interviews and deep thought provoking questions… so when the lovely LannaLee asked to interview me for her weekly podcast, Lounging with Lannalee, I panicked.

I listened to some other people’s interviews with her and they were real, live, interesting people. I am just me. Rob Gould has his colorful past and many adventures in the PR world, Rich Brooks has his cool confidence and a big upcoming event. What the heck would I talk about? I just have my dogs, my job, my med school husband, a human growing inside me and a love for living in Maine… So that is what we talked about – work-life, dogs, Maine etc.

You may have a listen, if you have nothing better to do. If you want to hear from people more interesting than me, you can find more Lounging with LannaLee podcasts on her website.

My Name is Amanda and I am 33 Weeks Pregnant

No, you didn’t miss something, I just haven’t posted it online… anywhere. I have been telling people as I spend time with them, there were a few phone calls and a handful of emails and of course, at this time (or size) I am not exactly able to hide it… but no… this IS the big announcement. Some of us are just a slower on these things than others.

Why the slow announcement? I am not actually sure or I am not sure I can actually explain it – but I will try.

Early on there was the normal worry of miscarriage and complications.

Then there was the uncertainty (can I really do this?!) and I wanted to be more confident and know more before I opened myself up to the billions of snippets of advice that I knew would eventually come. I see mothers everyday and I am in awe of them – their patience, their dedication, their drive, their patience, their pleasant disposition, their ability to carry all the supplies their family needs like an alpaca making a mountain climb and did I mention their patience? Can I really do that, like them?

Then there were the things I wanted to do (after consulting with our doctors) that I didn’t need to hear ‘a pregnant woman shouldn’t do that’. For example did you know people think I shouldn’t go on boat trips, run, travel, work full time, get a puppy, drink coffee, walk into Japanese restaurants, be married to a med student, drive alone… and those are just the ones I have heard about first hand. There are plenty more where those cautionary tails came from.

Then there was the internal debate I had with myself about privacy. I made decisions years ago, when I got into my industry, how much I would be willing to share online. I never thought about growing a mini Adamanda in my stomach and how much they would want you to share online. What will little Adamanda think when they are 15 and see how much I shared or blogged about them without their consent? What even will the world be like in 15 years? Will they even care? Who knows.

So I am slow on the announcement but I am happy about it. We are obviously very excited and we have had a busy summer preparing, or ‘nesting’ as many people call it. We also have had our own time to talk about what we are excited about, what we are scared of, thing we want to do as a family and so much more.

Now that we are more confident, that we are more ready, that I have learned so much more, that we have connected with our friends and family, now that we have built relationships with our doctors, now that we have chatted with many of our friends who have children… we are pretty darn sure we can not only do this but that we can do this pretty well.

So now… now I am ready to talk about it.

Maybe that is why you have 9 months to prepare? Not only do you need to grow your baby, but you need to prepare mentally for so much more too.