I recently read this Business Insider post on Hunter S. Thompson’s brutally honest cover letter to the Vancouver Sun . He is crass and arrogant. Most of all, he is utterly himself.
My company is growing and receiving resumes, cover letters and interviewing prospective team members is a part of my job. I find that process so interesting. I like stories and each of these job applicants is telling me their story. Some stories are better than others and some stories are just told better than others.
That Hunter S. Thompson letter reminded me that in so much of our lives, we just need to be honest about who we are. Whether you are trying to land a job or dating or meeting a new friend, the best way to make sure you get the right position/mate/buddy… is to present yourself as yourself.
Most jobs these days can be trained but is the culture, the workload or are your potential coworkers the right fit for you? If not, in a few weeks, months or years you will be bored, frustrated and looking to jump ship.
Same goes for dating. If you go into a relationship pretending to be something you are not, expressing interests in things you think your mate likes but that you don’t… after the distractions have come and gone (planning a wedding, honeymoon, starting a family), what will you have left? You won’t have the common interests, likes or values you had because they were embellished in the first place.
Look at my unfortunate husband. He got the straight talk version of me and for some reason still accepted. Good days, bad days, crazy days and perfect days… this is what the poor bastard signed up for. We know we share similar interests, have the same values and we have the same horrible sense of humor. When our good looks and busy lives are gone – we will be stuck with each other and I look forward to that.
When I interviewed for my job (5 years ago) I said all the wrong things, wore the wrong thing and failed the written test… but I got the job. I was myself and apparently I was what they needed. I was what this company was looking for.
Pretending to be someone else or what you think someone else is looking for will only get you so far. Be honest with who you are. The relationships and the journey will be so much more fulfilling.
If you think you can use me, drop me a line.
If not, good luck anyway.
Sincerely, Hunter S. Thompson