What the Heck is a Work, Life, Baby Balance?

work-life-babySheryl Sandberg, COO of Facebook, is a successful working mom.
Her husband is a successful working father, CEO of Survey Monkey.
How the hell did they manage that?

Sheryl has a book coming out in March called Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead. I will be buying it, of course. As you can imagine, we are trying to figure out this whole work/life/baby balance ourselves and I can tell you this much… it is tough!

I read a lot of blogs, I follow along with what Marissa Mayer is up to, I Google a lot of things – oftentimes at 3am, when the baby has woken up for his midnight snack. I will buy Sheryl’s book and add to her fortune. I am interested in her perspective and who couldn’t use a little rah rah rah at 3am on a weeknight, when you have an 8am meeting the next day?!?

Just from following Sheryl in the past, I know she expresses the importance of:

  • Two engaged parents in childcare (50/50 split)
  • Fair grounds from employers for men and women
  • Flexible jobs for both parents
  • Woman pushing themselves

Before reading the book, I know a few things of my own too:

  • Don’t take too much advice from other people on what works for them, it has to work for you
  • Make your own rules and go after what is important to you and your family
  • Sheryl and Marissa have more money than I will ever have, so they have a few more options than I do

I don’t know what a work, life, baby, dog, exercise, social life balance is. I am working on it. As I work on it, I can only hope that I help make some changes for anyone else who comes behind me, I hope someone can learn from my mistakes and successes and I hope I can be honest with myself and the people around me about how it is going.

In the meantime, if you want to know more about working women and moms, you can read this Business Insider article, you can pre-order Sheryl’s book, you can read this piece by Anne-Marie Slaughter on why women can’t have it all or watch this interview from Sheryl on how she does ‘have it all’.

3 Replies to “What the Heck is a Work, Life, Baby Balance?”

  1. I’ve found more balance has come as Eli’s gotten older (16 months now!) because some of our processes have become less complicated and the routines are a little stronger. I can go for a run at 6am, or my husband can go to a meeting at 7:30 like he did today, because the morning routine is always the same and it’s predictable enough for one person to handle. No way was that possible this time last year. Also, having a kid that sleeps through the night KNOCK ON WOOD has been the key to keeping me anxiety-free enough to even consider adding to our schedule.

    I don’t know, though, that we would feel as much balance as we do – and I still feel no matter what I’m doing that I could/should be giving it more – if my husband wasn’t consulting. His schedule is pretty flexible and he’s not often in an office until 5 or later, which means we’re both home at the same time in the evenings, or that he can handle pick up if something comes up for me at the last minute.

    The best thing we can do for each other is share our honest experiences, mistakes and successes and all. Keep writing! It makes a huge difference.

    1. Oh how I crave routine. I am really looking forward to it. E is almost 4 months and we are still in the hang-on-for-dear-life phase. My husband is currently in med school so his schedule is all over the place. It is literally taking a village to raise this baby – my parents, his parents, my BFF, dog walkers (for the dogs on really busy days) etc.

      I think I have been holding a lot of this in and I think writing more about it will help. I know it helped with other problems I have had in the past.

      Thank you so much for the comments, encouragement and the great blog you have yourself!

  2. Amanda, you’ve found time to write a blog post. That is a victory worth celebrating.

    So much about child rearing is very personal (breast feeding? pumping? co-sleeping?) etc. They are not things you necessarily want to get into with your boss, your co-workers, etc. But they are huge factors in your life right now. And I think that makes it challenging, too.

    You are in the thick of it. I’m guessing you are back at work (on some schedule) so this is pretty much the hardest time, in terms of the pure demands on your body/time. You can do it!

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