Advice from Strangers

small_3293998483For my ‘adult life’ (I use the term loosely), I comically have been known to take advice from strangers. Weather reports from baristas, romantic advice from patrons at the bar I worked at, dog raising tips from random people I meet at dog parks and health tips from concert goers. I just trust strangers. I’m not sure if it is from being brought up in a small community of just my general gullible nature.

The day of the Boston Marathon bombing… the hour of the Boston Marathon bombing, Adam and I were driving back from New York City with the baby. When we got word of what had happened from a concerned friend that called us, we very soon after pulled off the highway – part for a dirty diaper change and part just to stop driving so we could process what the heck was going on.

We got off the highway in Massachusetts and stopped at a Dunkin Donuts. The only people there were a handful of old guys playing cribbage in the corner. After we got our coffee, a man who was playing cribbage motioned for me to come over to the table. He pointed at the pacifier in my hand.

Old Guy: ‘You know what they are saying now don’tcha?’
Me: ‘No’
My head: Here we go with the pacifiers are bad for babies lecture.

Old Guy: ‘Well how do ya clean that thing?’
Me: ‘We have these special wipes for them or I swap it out if it is really icky.’
My head: I know, I know… I am supposed to BOIL it every time it comes into contact with a molecule yadda yadda.

Old Guy: You don’t need those. They say now that moms should just wash them off with their own mouths. It’ll help the baby from getting sick and developing allergies’.
Me: Oh interesting. Thanks. Have a great afternoon.
My head: Why is my husband so damn slow all the time. I’m going to wait outside.

New Study on Cleaning Pacifiers

Sam-Beckett-quantum-leapThis week on the news, multiple sources are talking about a new study out of Sweden that says moms should clean their baby’s pacifiers with their mouths.

“By the time babies were 18 months old, those whose parents sucked their pacifiers were less likely to have asthma and eczema, and the researchers concluded that this was because parents exposed their babies to bacteria in their saliva, stimulating babies’ immune systems. There was also a trend toward a reduction in allergy signs.”

Whooooooooaaaa!

So who was that old guy at the Dunkin Donuts a month ago who told me the same thing? Was he a doctor? Was he from the future? Was he Dr. Samuel Beckett?

I may never know but he didn’t do much for my weakness of taking advice from strangers. He may have made my condition worse.

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Doing

Doing is better than perfect.
- Facebook company motto

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Prepare the Child for the Path

Prepare the child for the path,
not the path for the child.

- Betsy Brown Braun

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I Think We All Need a Pep Talk

Have you seen this yet?

If not, you should. If you have, you should watch it again… or maybe you should make it your alarm clock in the morning.

We had another great Social Media Breakfast this morning. My friend CC Chapman came up for part of his Amazing Things Will Happen book tour. In his presentation he brought up this video. Just thinking about it makes me smile.

A few key points from the Kid President:

  • Stop being boring – you are gooder than that!
  • The road less traveled can hurt. Not COOL Robert Frost!
  • Be on the path that leads to awesome!
  • Don’t stop dreaming, unless your dream is stupid and then it should be a better dream.
  • Keep going, keep going, keep going.
  • We are all on the same team. Start acting like it.

Go be awesome!

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Social Social Me

social-socialMy wonderful friend, Rob Gould, is doing a really nice blog for the Portland Press Herald called Social Social. In it he is talking about social media and interviewing a few characters on their experiences with it.

I was his most recent victim: Social Social – Sketchy chat rooms, pregnancy privacy and Sesame Street.

Articles about yourself are funny. Receiving any type of attention for being yourself is funny.

I can’t believe I said half the things I did but talking to Rob was easy. I was comfortable and very honest.

The last few years have been crazy with losing Brody, having a baby, getting Otto and keeping up with work, Social Media Breakfasts and SARSSM. All I am doing is the best I can do.

I thought since I mentioned my crush on Sesame Street in Rob’s article, I would share this fun video with Will.i.am. It seems fitting for a day like today.

Lyrics:

If what I am is what’s in me
Then I’ll stay strong – that’s who I’ll be
and I will always be the best
“me” that I can be.

There’s only one me, I admit have a dream I’ll follow it
It’s up to me to try.

Oh! I’m a keep my head up high
Keep on reaching high
Never gonna quit
I’ll be getting stronger.

And nothing’s gonna bring me down (no!)
Never gonna stop, gotta go.
Because I know
I’ll keep getting stronger.

And what I am is thoughtful
what I am is musical
what I am is smart
and what I am is brave
what I am is helpful
what I am is special
There’s nothing I can’t achieve.
Because in myself I believe in oh…

Gonna keep our heads up high
Keep on reaching high
Never gonna quit
Just keep getting stronger.

And nothing’s gonna bring us down (no!)
Never give it up, gotta go.
Because I know
I’ll keep getting stronger.

What I am is super
what I am is proud
what I am is friendly
what I am is grouchy
what you are is magical
what you are is special

There’s nothing I can’t achieve.
Because in myself I believe in oh…

Gonna hold my head up high
Keep on reaching high
Never gonna stop
I’ll be getting stronger.

Nothing’s gonna bring me down (no!)
Never give it up gotta go, oh… yeah…
I’ll keep getting strong–er.

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What the Heck is a Work, Life, Baby Balance?

work-life-babySheryl Sandberg, COO of Facebook, is a successful working mom.
Her husband is a successful working father, CEO of Survey Monkey.
How the hell did they manage that?

Sheryl has a book coming out in March called Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead. I will be buying it, of course. As you can imagine, we are trying to figure out this whole work/life/baby balance ourselves and I can tell you this much… it is tough!

I read a lot of blogs, I follow along with what Marissa Mayer is up to, I Google a lot of things – oftentimes at 3am, when the baby has woken up for his midnight snack. I will buy Sheryl’s book and add to her fortune. I am interested in her perspective and who couldn’t use a little rah rah rah at 3am on a weeknight, when you have an 8am meeting the next day?!?

Just from following Sheryl in the past, I know she expresses the importance of:

  • Two engaged parents in childcare (50/50 split)
  • Fair grounds from employers for men and women
  • Flexible jobs for both parents
  • Woman pushing themselves

Before reading the book, I know a few things of my own too:

  • Don’t take too much advice from other people on what works for them, it has to work for you
  • Make your own rules and go after what is important to you and your family
  • Sheryl and Marissa have more money than I will ever have, so they have a few more options than I do

I don’t know what a work, life, baby, dog, exercise, social life balance is. I am working on it. As I work on it, I can only hope that I help make some changes for anyone else who comes behind me, I hope someone can learn from my mistakes and successes and I hope I can be honest with myself and the people around me about how it is going.

In the meantime, if you want to know more about working women and moms, you can read this Business Insider article, you can pre-order Sheryl’s book, you can read this piece by Anne-Marie Slaughter on why women can’t have it all or watch this interview from Sheryl on how she does ‘have it all’.

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What Hunter S. Thompson Reminded Me About Dating and Job Interviews

I recently read this Business Insider post on Hunter S. Thompson’s brutally honest cover letter to the Vancouver Sun . He is crass and arrogant. Most of all, he is utterly himself.

My company is growing and receiving resumes, cover letters and interviewing prospective team members is a part of my job. I find that process so interesting. I like stories and each of these job applicants is telling me their story. Some stories are better than others and some stories are just told better than others.

That Hunter S. Thompson letter reminded me that in so much of our lives, we just need to be honest about who we are. Whether you are trying to land a job or dating or meeting a new friend, the best way to make sure you get the right position/mate/buddy… is to present yourself as yourself.

Most jobs these days can be trained but is the culture, the workload or are your potential coworkers the right fit for you? If not, in a few weeks, months or years you will be bored, frustrated and looking to jump ship.

Same goes for dating. If you go into a relationship pretending to be something you are not, expressing interests in things you think your mate likes but that you don’t… after the distractions have come and gone (planning a wedding, honeymoon, starting a family), what will you have left? You won’t have the common interests, likes or values you had because they were embellished in the first place.

Look at my unfortunate husband. He got the straight talk version of me and for some reason still accepted. Good days, bad days, crazy days and perfect days… this is what the poor bastard signed up for. We know we share similar interests, have the same values and we have the same horrible sense of humor. When our good looks and busy lives are gone – we will be stuck with each other and I look forward to that.

When I interviewed for my job (5 years ago) I said all the wrong things, wore the wrong thing and failed the written test… but I got the job. I was myself and apparently I was what they needed. I was what this company was looking for.

Pretending to be someone else or what you think someone else is looking for will only get you so far. Be honest with who you are. The relationships and the journey will be so much more fulfilling.

If you think you can use me, drop me a line.
If not, good luck anyway.
Sincerely, Hunter S. Thompson

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